Dating a man with narcissistic personality disorder
“These traits can present in a number of ways.”It’s hard to say exactly, but both genetics and upbringing likely play a role.“To quite a degree, personalities are inherited,” says Newman.A narcissist will routinely overestimate their abilities while simultaneously devaluing the contributions of other people, and they may act surprised when they don’t get the praise they feel they deserve.Often, if they aren’t achieving success, they find a way to blame other people or society, but never themselves. But narcissistic people take it to an extreme, believing they’re so special that they can only be understood by other special people. That’s why they seek to surround themselves with only the best. “When they come in for some type of therapy, they’re very specific about only being seen by the best person,” says Newman.
“You could plan an entire event around this one person’s schedule and then they might not even show up,” says Newman.
But what does a true narcissist (someone with narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD) actually look like?
Research suggests that anywhere between 1 and 6 percent of the population may have this personality disorder, and about 50 to 75 percent of those are men.
We’ve all tossed around the word "narcissist" to describe a self-absorbed person, especially when it comes to relationships of all kinds—romantic, familial, workplace, even friendships.
Maybe it’s an ex who constantly put his own needs and desires above yours, or maybe it’s a boss who continually cuts you off in meetings and takes credit for your accomplishments.
“If they’re always taking advantage of you for money and never pay you back, you need to make it clear that those days are done,” says Newman.