Dating older man problems
I guess that was the biggest impact on the relationship — I let him mold me into the girl he wanted instead of being who I really was. I don't think they expected it to last because I had never been in a relationship before.What did/do you friends and family think of your relationship? A couple of my friends have similar stories about dating older men: they chose the person and not the age group. Woman C: My friends were much calmer than I thought they would be — a couple said they always thought I would end up with an older man.Did/does it impact sex at all, for better or for worse? This was one of the many ways the relationship was emotionally abusive — sex was always ostensibly on the table, but no matter how much I threw myself at him, I was always rejected. The fact that this man didn't want to have sex with me in spite of claiming to love me, in spite of the fact that men allegedly always want sex, in spite of the fact that they allegedly especially want sex with much younger women — all of this made the continual rejection especially painful. We have different tastes sexually — I'm more adventurous — but that has nothing to do with age.If anything, his emotional maturity has allowed us to have those tough conversations about sex.However, after the relationship with the significantly older man ended I vowed to only date close to my age again.I think that there is definitely some truth to the "age is just a number" mentality, but having the experience I did, I don't buy it completely.
But again, I think it's more because of who he is, rather than the more experience.
Woman A: I was working in retail at the time, and he was a customer. He looks younger than he is and is in very good shape.
Woman C: I knew he was older, I just didn't think that he was that much older.
But it's not an exact science — there are plenty of immature older men that would put teenagers to shame.
Woman D: I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me.