Dating vs courtship old fashioned dating ideas
The material has now been revised and updated and was presented again in another seminar at The King’s Community Church in November 2007.If you were to ask me several years ago to give you a rundown of courtship vs dating I would have easily pulled out my notes and let it rip.It’s no wonder Christians tend to freak out about dating.Rather than trying to navigate through the world of dating in a healthy way, it’s easier to overcompensate for one extreme by simply developing another.So in the Christian community, models of courtship, no kissing until the altar, “God-told-me-to” break-up excuses and other confusing circumstances abound.” Our struggle as human beings is maintaining balance.It’s common for people to swing from one side of the pendulum to the other.Laying a solid foundation in this area is a parental reponsibility, but the church has a responsibility to hold the family accountable to the Word of God.If we want our young people to be prepared for marriage these are the questions that we must ask: In answering these questions, we need to know the criteria by which the answers must be judged.
If you feel “right” together, if you’re having fun, if there’s passion and pleasure, then it must be a good relationship.But if this is the foundation of a relationship, commitment is often trumped by chemistry and loyalty is often replaced with lust.It’s a mentality that causes us to live in the moment, rather than building a future at the same time.And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever."Is dating morally neutral?Is it just an innocent cultural expression; the way we do things in the west in the present century? " Jim West has defined a date as, "Any planned event involving a shared activity between a man and a woman" - one person asks the other to share in an activity, and a publicly recognizable pairing occurs.
But the more I read online, the more I’ve seen that (at least in Christian circles) courtship and dating mean different things to different people.