Living together while dating
“Cohabitation doesn’t cause divorce” Dr Arielle Kuperberg reports in her 2014 study on cohabiting couples.
“What leads to divorce is when people move in with someone – with or without a marriage license – before they have the maturity and experience to choose compatible partners and to conduct themselves in ways that can sustain a long-term relationship.” Does it seem like you spend all your time together, and moving in together feels like the next logical step?
If there’s one key to moving in together successfully, it’s getting the timing right.
Rush into living together and you risk ruining everything. That might sound dramatic, but moving in together is a big deal.
MYTH: Living together will give us a stronger marriage.
Nowadays it’s a pretty old-fashioned idea that moving in together before you’re married will lead to relationship problems – and even divorce – in later life.Couples who live together have more financial issues to resolve.Conflicts arise over who is responsible for which bill, and the rights that one partner has to tell the other how to spend "their" money.Children in these situations are at risk of emotional and social difficulties, performing poorly in school, having early premarital sex and having difficulty forming permanent emotional attachments in adulthood.If the man in the household is not the biological father, children are at greater risk of experiencing physical and sexual abuse.