Guys, don’t wait until you’ve had lunch or dinner or “hung out” one-on-one four or five times before you let her know what’s going on.
The idea is to remove that period of confusion or vulnerability for the woman by being forthright about what level of intention or commitment exists (a la 1 Thessalonians 4).
The first thing that should happen if it has not happened during the initiation of the relationship is that intentions should be established.
Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so.
Then — in addition to actually thinking and praying about it — ask one of your pastors or elders whether he knows him and what he thinks.
If the pastor or elder you ask doesn’t know him well, he can guide you to a trustworthy source that knows him better.
The answer turns on what you are trying to find out about this person at this stage of things.If you feel that you are not initially attracted to a man who initiates with you, OK — but at least ask yourself why that is.Are you considering biblical characteristics in that decision?You probably won’t know at this stage how things are going to ultimately turn out regarding marriage (that’s why you date), so you need not communicate that right away.But you should know what you’re trying to find out and what your intentions are — that is what you, as the man, must be clear about.